Why I gave up getting drunk.

Tyler Shields

I recently turned 21 and I didn’t get drunk!

There was no sculling of a full glass by the birthday girl to the encouraging chants of drunken guests.

Nor were the usual team of friends assembled the following morning in a desperate attempt to recreate the night that was.

Was I sick? …. No.

Am I allergic to alcohol? …. No.

Have I banned myself from having fun?Certainly not.

Then why the actual fuck were you not trashed on your birthday? (You ask)

Well, beautiful people…

I have given up getting drunk.

Okay now lower that perplexed looking eyebrow and pick up that slack jaw from the ground.

All that judgment and you haven’t even let me explain yet, shame on you! 

Allow me to delve into this decision of mine for you, my friend, before you conclude that I have some sort of grave aversion to fun!


Even though I have really only just entered the decade which should see me reveling in free tequila shots, sending out drunken text messages that I will undoubtedly regret the next morning and religiously writing off Sundays, I have chosen to give this all up prematurely!

Okay, okay! So, I am not making getting drunk sound very desirable anyway. But let me assure you, I completely appreciate the great joys of getting wasted.

 The uninhibitedness. The laughter. The adventure. The fun. The frivolity.The dancing. The thrills.
That sense of total, utter, complete freedom.

Drunken nights can be fucking amazing.

And then of course there is the fun of remembering, reassembling and recreating the scattered pieces of these nights with friends.

The embarrassment. The laughter. The stories.


Looking back and examining my career of drinking, I have come to realise that there was one thing that I loved so much about getting drunk.

This one thing superseded the Sunday morning hangover and any gnawing feelings of regret or embarrassment I felt from the previous night’s frivolities.

It was this one thing that would drive me to get back on the vino the next weekend without any pussyfooting around.

This one thing…

CONNECTEDNESS

Getting drunk made me feel more connected to my friends.

It gave me the confidence to connect more freely, openly and honestly with others.

And because of this I thought I was connecting more strongly with my real self. 

As humans, it is connectedness that we crave most.

We feel like getting drunk is satisfying this innate and chronic human necessity.

Ironically though, connectedness is what drove me to drink but it is also what has driven my to give up getting drunk. 


I CRAVE MORE CONNECTEDNESS!

The connection that was being satisfied by my drinking was on a relationship level.
Now it is my soul that is screaming out for connection.

It is this type of connection that a bottle of wine and a few ‘wet pussy’ shots does not seem to satisfy.
Knowing this, getting drunk no longer serves me.


As Danielle LaPorte so eloquently puts it:
“If you have to step outside yourself, away from your values & Soul, to get your needs met, then you’re not going to get your needs met”

For me these days getting drunk would feel like a stepping away from my Soul.

And let me tell you, once you have truly connected with your soul there is no way in hell you will ever wanna part with HER/HIM.

So it is simple,  I don’t get drunk

Do I miss the freedom, the uninhibitedness, the laughter, the fun, the frivolity?

No.

I have access to the freedom, uninhibitedness & adventure I felt when getting drunk, in every single moment.

And so do you.


 So how do you become more connected?

Meditate. Revel in stillness. Foster self-awareness. Question your actions.

Start to peel off the layers of yourself until you feel your true self.

That raw, vulnerable, beautiful being inside of you, craving nourishment and attention.

For me I never set myself the goal to give up getting drunk. It was simply a natural progression as I deepened my relationship with myself.

So beautiful, I’m not asking you to padlock your liquor cabinet and cancel this weekend’s plans, but simply to listen to your SOUL.

Is she/he in need of some lovin’?

Big Love Meg x

Image via Annie Leibovitz

13 Comments to “Why I gave up getting drunk.”

  1. Maddy Lahey says:

    Just stumbled across your blog! Absolutely beautiful love this post ❤️❤️❤️

  2. Kristen says:

    Well hey there soul sista! My last drunken night was my 21st Birthday bash, I went out with a bang.. and a shocking hangover. Iv been a sober bear for a year and a half now. I found that I had access to all that laughter, freedom and dancing while sober and on a more conscious level. Suddenly sneaking coconuts and Kombucha into pubs felt seriously bad ass!

    • I thought I replied to this the other day Kristen, my host just changed server’s so it may have gotten lost in cyber space in the transition!
      I am going to have to get a little more rebellious and start sneaking in Kombucha like you! Love connecting with other women who have managed to embrace fun, frivolity and freedom sans alcohol!!!! Woot Woot! xxx

  3. lera says:

    I wish I gave up drinking when I was 21! Instead, I only started to slow down when I was 30. And even after that I had occasional getting drunk moments. What you wrote here describes me very well – the need for connection, the need to be real and wild and crazy, and have an excuse – well, I was drunk, and when you are drunk it’s ok to be free and do all those things that sober people don’t do. So I am in the process of learning how to do all these things (well, may be not all, some!!) without drinking. I am sneaking tea into pubs and asking for a hot water so I can brew a proper tea in a pint glass! :))) So far nobody told me off yet! :)

    • Lera. Thank you so much for sharing your story! Winding down on the alcohol is definitely a slow and sometimes taxing process but I have learnt so much about myself in doing so! I think I am going to take your advice and start taking tea bags to pubs! I was out the other day and they scoffed at me for asking if they sold herbal tea! Haha. xxx

  4. Irena says:

    What a beautiful post Meg :) I spent my 21st birthday with a morning walk, followed by yoga and a beautiful lunch (raw cake of course hehe) and few good souls. It was a beautiful day :) xxxx

  5. Brooke says:

    LOVE this article – I have never realised WHY I can’t just stop at one or two drinks – but this is exactly WHY!! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • Brooke! It took me a while to have this kind of awareness too. It wasn’t until I stopped “getting drunk” that I realised why I searched for comfort there.
      Thanks for being pulled into this space, Lovely! xxx

  6. Sarah says:

    Gorgeous post Meg. I celebrated a year alcohol free a few weeks ago and I really relate to what you’ve written. xx

  7. Emma says:

    Such a beautiful post Meg. I’m going to be doing a sober October and looking forward to digging deep and doing some beautiful soul connecting. Your posts always light something up within me. Thank you for sharing x

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